Tickle

Yes and no, generally around the 2 year mark intimacy takes a back seat to everyday life so it eases off a bit,but when you have been together for quite a while you have to work at it to keep the spark alive otherwise the spark leaves and then you have to work twice as hard to get it back

i have been married 7 yrs and sex is better and plentiful when you have learned what turns your partner on and what pleases them as well as yourself. after yrs of marriage you are very comfortable with your mate so it is easy to get aroused and stay aroused and enjoy the lovemaking when there  is love and you are comfortable.

My husband and had just celebrated 18 years together when he passed away in Oct.  We were intimate up until his health no longer allowed and even then we shared a closeness thats hard to put into words.  Most people confused us as newly weds because we constantly held hands and were openly affectionate with each other.  I truely believe that once you find your soulmate it's like a fine wine that only gets better with time.

I've been married since May 24th, of this year so we are still in our honey moon phase . . . But I practically moved in with my husband after 4 days of dating.  This was definately not a common thing for neither one of us but the chemistry is wonderful and it has not changed - on the contrary after 2 yrs. of being together our relationship (especially our sexual life) is better than ever.  Even to this day I get goosebumps when he kisses me . . . Sex and relationships are more meaningful when in love, and as a married couple you may encounter a little dry spell -- but there are so many different ways to be intimate without having sex that can only be discovered after living with a person for a while. 

From my experiance, this is normal. Marriage seems to just Kill your sex life after awhile. I was reading married couples average intiamacy ranges from 3x a month! In our relationship we went form 6x a week to 1 so tell your friend to not get discouraged...

Hey, oldies, dont discourage our friends. I am married enab long term to say: all this stores about healthy regular sex 3X each week are from dreams of condom makers.  It can take month or two without "It". Or even more - your have got a big project, and there is no time and space beyond it, as example. But... the momentum comes, the lightning strikes, and nothing wiil prevent us from being together. And then the earth shakes, and ... Ok' You all know, what happens.

We have two nice, smart girls. Whole 17 year of hapinnes from being a couple.  

There is a joke: what is common between teenagers and married couple? Answer: irregular sex.

Well when i got married the sex just stopped as in the first 6 months it happened like 3 times and thats it, its not normal sex shouldnt stop because u get married. (hence the divorce!!!!) i was once told a marriage without sex is a freindship nothing more that says it all dont you think????

I think it kind of goes in waves - you get your ups & downs. i've been married for 7 years, we were an item for 2 before that, and it depends more on what else is going on.... heavy work schedules, kids, or other life crap puts a damper on things.  I wouldn't worry too much unless it keeps up for a reaaalllly long stretch.

jLYNN79 says ...

i really think it depends on the couple & their chemistry w/each other. i also think that sex doesn't play an important role in everyone's marriage. do i enjoy sex - hell yea!!  is it an absolute necessity - not really. unfortunately i think a lot of people tend to compare their sex life to others & they shouldn't. just because your best friend has sex 3 times a week & you only do it once... doesn't mean you don't have a good marriage, or a healty sex life. sometimes dwelling on the issue, just makes matters worse!! 

I agree . . . What is "Normal" anyway right?  Besides there are so many facets to a married couple . . . What matters is that we stay close to our partners and act as a team.  It will do you no good to have sex everyday for that matter to consider yourself a good married couple while both of you are not happy.  There is no secret universal formula -- other than genuinely loving your spouse.

I've been with my husband for almost 10 yrs total.  Married for 7yrs.  We had a really hard time after we were married.  The sex stopped completely for about 5 months.  The stress of planning our wedding, his job promotion (overtime), and the fact that I had gotten pregnant and was having a hard time staying that way, were just some of the reasons.  After the baby was born, we separated for about a month, but the sex actually got better during the separation.  I went home, and it has been great since then, until recently.  So much happened so fast, it was hard for either of us to catch up.  Now we have found out that he has bipolar disorder.  All of his manic moods and the medications make it hard to know when he is approachable.  When we have sex it is very satisfying, but my sex drive is far higher than his, and when I mention to him that I would like to be intimate, I never know what his response is going to be.  I think that in a marriage, stress plays a huge role in how much sex a couple has.  To much stress+ to little sex= divorce..    You have to have something to agree on or look forward to in that relationship with the spouse.  For me, I get a feeling of rejection, so I just don't offer as much.  It definitely slows down after a while, but it is usually circumstance that causes it, if you married for the right reasons to begin with.

    I've been married now for a little over a year and My husband and I have a VERY healthy Sex life. But it has a lot to do with the kind of relationship we have outside of sex. Whether or not you have developed a closeness with that other person. I grew up with my Husband and we;ve been best friends since I was 9 yrs old. He was my first crush,first kiss, first everything. We were able to develope that friendship first, then it grew into somthing stronger. I believe developing that friendship first is key to a successfull reletionship. Once thats achieved then both you and your partner will be wanting to please eachother every moment you can.

After being married for a while you realize sex isn't the only way to be intimate with someone.

If one of you is feeling neglected sexually, you need to step back and look at yourself before you complain to the other person. It seems everyone is so worried about "me, me, me" people forget that others have needs that need to be met too. If you're in a healthy relationship there is really no reason that either of you would/should feel neglected.

And sometimes you just have to take Nike's advice and JUST DO IT! =) 

yes its normal. you got to put that spice back in there. days go by, but people stay the same, you start to get bored. u have to make it work.

I think it all depends on how your partner has treated you through out your marriage.