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whats love got to do with age? whys it matter if a women likes a man who is 20 or so years older? whats it matter if a women like a man 2 years younger? either way its always viewed so badly.... they would see an older man taking advantage of a younger female... or a young dumb female trying to get money outta the older man.   as for a women with a younger boyfriend they be thinking she is playing him or trying to get some youth back. men would be thinking its an older lady and she knows what shes dowing..

cant we forget all this all let others feel for someone who isn't exactly in thier age group?

I definitly agree with you!

...because there is such a thing as statatory rape...but honestly though love is blind, so you may think that you two have the same "mental age" but in reality he could just be taking advantage of your youth...but then again I could always be wrong.  As to why society looks down upon it, it's simply because they feel as though the maturity levels between the two people would be too different.  I mean society os pretty okay with 2 years apart, but 5 and hitting double digits is just hard to believe that it is truly love and not one person taking advantage over another.  Society always tries to judge what's "right" or what's "fair" and to them age is a determination of where a person is in their life, and two people coming together in a relationship should help each other through similiar situations in life together, not advise their partner how to handle an issue they handled 20 years ago.

But that's the thing, all society can see is black and white because the majority of the people in the world are stupid and they only want to see things their way and no matter how much anyone can attempt to persuade them otherwise all they will ever see is black and white.

Plus it's hard to empathize with something you've never experienced...in fact it's impossible.

Bingo! But as you're living your life you have to be careful not to ignore the advice of others, because even though they may be wrong they always have the possibility (no matter how far the stretch) to be right...and if they are wrong it's still an interesting thought.

allrighty then...

I'm sorry for your loss, if people truly love each other then they should be together regardless of what other people say.

Ok, i c 2 sides...

1. I've read about 30 years old men with 15 years old girls... It's obvious that men are taking advantage of these girls, that is rape (this must be another topic), because they are minors... Law doesnt care if girls agreed to have sex, it's still ilegal.I mentioned sex cuz i dont believe there is a 30 years old man who wouldnt want to have sex with his gf. Ok, i agree there are exceptions, but just a few.

2. It's different if woman is 20, and man 40... I was on a situation like that before, and now that i c it... i think i was being manipulated! Again, that is just how i feel, but thing is, things could seem nice right now, but what when u r 40 and he's 60... We dont know when we gonna die, but we hope to get old and gray, right? I think the woman becomes a nurse then... No no no, i dont like being a nurse. Everyone is free to chose a partner, but i would consider this... So i prefer similar ages.



Sorry for the grammar, my english must improve soon, jeje.

I'm 17 and I'm dating a guy who's 12 years older than me. Like someone said before, why do ppl judge on birth certificates?

This is my experience with what everyone's saying. All my life I've dated similar ages with women. A FEW years younger, a few years older, sure. But not more then that.

When I turned 26 one of my co-workers asked me to hire her 16 year old daughter to run a register at the store I worked in. No problem. All day every day I'm surrounded by teenage girls, 16 and up. Sure you look.. But you'd never dream of touching. Society has ingrained the thought in your head that to do so would be imoral.

On the daughters first day on the job I see her. And it's pretty much the same deal. Yes, she's beautiful. But I'd never consider. Even THINKING about it bothered me. So you go about the day training her on her job, chit-chat. I find out she's smart as well as beautiful. Funny, kind. Older then her years because of a family tragedy she went through. Even at this point, the thought of actually being with her doesn't enter my head. She just becomes my favorite of the girls. Nice kid... "boy, if I was 8 years younger" She's going to make some young kid a very lucky man one day, etc.

Then one day. think it was her 9th day, some ass**** customer gives her a hard time, yelling at her for a simple mistake. So I head out to shut him up and back his loud ass off of her. Tell her to take 5 in the office while I run her register. This isn't knight in shining armour stuff for her. It's something I have to do alot for the girls. Well the next day her and her mom come into work, and the "kid" is following me around like a love sick puppy dog. Her mom tells me she's been going on and on about me at home. To which I reply, that's really flattering, but she's a tiny bit too young for me, don't you think? And her mom says, well, I'd rather you take her out then some of these jerks coming by our house. This totally floored me, lol. But I still didn't take it seriously. I WAS becoming more and more attracted to her, but I wouldn't allow myself to consider it.

So she keeps pursuing me, trying to get my interest. She's decided she wants me and she's gonna HAVE me, lol. Right. Then maybe a month after she's hired we're in the office counting her register pan so she can leave 4 the day. She taps me on the shoulder from behind, and when I turn to look at her, She has the look on her face that.... I don't know. I lean forward and kiss her. Just a quick stolen kiss. I don't remember even deciding to do it. And the smile she gets.. It's beautiful.. SHE'S beautiful. And that's it. Suddenly I feel like I've done something REALLY wrong, and I hurry out of the office. A quick goodbye and I go to think about what I just did, and what people will think of me if they find out.

Well I found out the next day. Her mom shows up at work grinning at me. Says she knows, laughing. I'm like, WTF? But the mom isn't mad. Tells me she's actually jealous of her daughter, lol. If the mom was just 15 years younger I'd be hers. But the point is she doesn't care. It's ok with her. She says her husband doesn't mind either. I mean whether it's wrong or right, I like this girl, and now I've got her parents permission. It took me another 3 days or so until I finally broke down and asked the girl out to dinner. That dazzling smile again, and she says yes, she'd like that. So I go to pick her up at her house (God that was a wierd experience, the 1st time) and start to head for a nice night out on the town. But she yells me she'd rather see my place. When we get there, I'm trying to be a gentleman, and she's all over me. Ya'll don't need the details, lol. Use your imigination.

Anyway, we fell in love. REAL love. Not infatuation. Not just great sex. Love. I dunno.. maybe I was still a little immature then, or she was truly older then her years. Whatever it was, it was RIGHT. So... She tells her "ok with it" parents that she's moving out of the house, and in with me. They don't like it, but they don't fight it.. Everything's great for awhile. When it's just me and her. It's perfect. But whenever I try to involve my friends, or she her (younger) friends.. The pieces don't fit together. They don't match up. Me and her are great.. But our lives won't combine.

Eventually it ruined it for us. The looks we got in public. The friends who wouldn't talk to us. The family members who frowned on it. Threats of having me arrested.. So we fell apart. Until she ended up moving to another state to her grand moms. And once in a blue moon, I'd get a call from her.. if she was sad, or'd had a few drinks.. And I did the same to her, when memories became strong.. sometimes.

Well, it's been 7 years since I last saw her. And I have to say the whole experience changed me. My age preferences for one. In my eyes since her, 17 and up is ok.. If the 17 year old is mature enough to truly understand what she wants. But I also like older women now too. Maybe 48 being my upper limit now, if she's appealing. I don't think there's anything morally wrong with it, depending on whether it's love or not. But it can be SO frigging HARD to make it work.. Too hard, for me and her. But I still love her. When I picture her, that smile blinding me.. It hurts.. I'm starting to realise my love for her will ALWAYS be there inside of me.. An ache that never quite heals.

Hey there!

Well, in my own experience I can say most of the times IT DOES NOT WORK.  it works out just if it's for a short period of time.  Let me tell you why I think this is true.  LOVE  has definetely no age, but GOALS do! You can be in love with someone 10 or more than 10 years older than you but then, as time goes by and things start getting serious then the goals (most of the times) are completely diffferent and THEN everything changes, the magic's gone! Example: A 23-year-old person has totally different goals compared to a 33-year-old person, I mean, the youngest one still wants to hang out with friends and being independent and stuff and the older one (maybe) already has something settled you know, he or she might want a family and move to a bigger house with way more responsabilities, although the youngest wants the same thing too in her or his life BUT LATER! Yes, you can be in love but I don't hink it will work out for a long term relationship, I mean, without even thinking about it or realizing it, instead of having a couple... you have a relationship coach who's telling you in some kind of way... what to and what not to do....

So, what do you think?

Clau_Houses you have a really good point.... that is true. i did think about that once before because ive been with older men before.... it is hard because you are at different places in life... but still there is the rare chance itll work out.. love isnt black and white and definately never easy...

omg thats is totally right i mean im 13 almost 14 and this guy just turned 16  on the 8th of july and it about 3 yr difference but!!!!!! i really liked this guy and guess what i had to break up with him because of his age .... i was not happy neither was he ,..... i was his first gf and we really had some really strong feelings for each other and now we cant see each other ever again..... its totally not fair!!!! you agree right!!! and now here i am all alone brokenhearted

sorry for your lose amy.. sometimes life throughs some hard issues your way... sometimes age is a bummer.. how are old you anyways? well if i were you i would try my best to let him know whats up.. if you have thats about all you can do.. too bad you can't show your parents how well he treats you.. that would drive me crazy.. im happy im 20 (almost 21 in 6 more days!) i wouldn't ever let my parents have a say.. i know thats harder then it sounds though.. a lot harder.. hope the best of luck for u..

I do think age has something to do with, but not as much as the indiviaul. Im 14 [almost 15], and i honestly dont see myself with someone of my own age, because it seems like people my age are immature, and  simply dont think as deeply as I do. I need stimulating conversation,and reasonable thinking. people who know who they are. and thats hard to find with 14 year olds. Besides, most of my friends are 16-19 anyway. But at the same time I dont want to go out with somebody thats more than 2 years older than me.That jus doesnt seem right. Well thats MY opinion on the matter, based on my personal circumastances. Right now, Im content being single.& thats how i want it to be.::,so watever on that.....................but If I was say 18-20, I wouldnt date a 40 year old,  because I'd be thinking this looks stupid, and why is this old[er] man trying to talk to me, he needs to grow up find sum1 that doesnt look like his child "eeewww"

LOOOOOSER!!!